A nice bit of knowledge from Sri Sri Ravi Shankar in my inbox today…
There are two modes you can be in: Participating and Witnessing.
We apply both wrongly and end up being unhappy.
You must participate in joy and witness suffering.
Whenever there is happiness, participate no matter whose happiness it is. When there is suffering, observe it. But what we generally do is that we only participate in suffering, whosoever’s it is. But when there is real cause of happiness, we become its mere witness.